You live....you learn...you wonder...

Each day we learn some new things in life...
we learn more about us...more about people around how...how we deal with things, how we face problems...how we cope with news relationships...how to handle the different ways of thinking of each one around us...and that's not an easy thing to do...

Each relationship is unique...and what's good about that is you always have to make some effort to get to know the other person...there's always some new things to discover...some secrets to reveal...some attitudes to understand...

Two people can be so different but get on so well together...the success of the relationship is the understanding of the differences...it's accepting that both people have different point of views over some subjects...the success is also and mostly due to honesty...

if the two persons are true to eachother, natural and complete...things can work out because we're all different and unique and if we really show who we are, you get to work the differences out and accept them and evolve together towards the future...

But the road to get there can be long...and it takes time for two persons to get to understand eachother...

Still i have a lot of wonders...
Why is it easier for two friends, boys, to take the decision to live together, then for a couple to take that decision…when is it the right time for a couple to move in the same place?

Another wonder…how to make a place for someone new in our lives when we already have life schedule that is full…between work and friends and sports and relaxation…how to make some room for that new person and make her not feel uncomfortable when she’s around…make her not feel like she comes after all the rest…how to judge what kind of things we tell her because it’s seems important and kind of things she doesn’t need to know?…how to make sure than the things we don’t tell her aren’t important to her…so that she feels as part of one’s life completely?

How to make distance relationships work? How often should one call? How to make the other feel we’re here and at the same time not make the other feel as if he couldn’t breathe anymore?

Too many questions and wonders…I learn everyday…human relationships…I sometimes feel like I have to explain myself so that my actions aren’t misinterpreted…you know, sometimes you want to do something right, something nice, a surprise…and then you get a reaction that’s is far for what you’ve expected…

How to bring up a subject that could be problematic or lead to an argue and not end up separated?

Do we always learn from the past? Do History repeat itself? I don’t think it does if we start the relationship and take it and face it in an intelligent way and our friends are always here to help us make the right decision and see things from another point of view…our fears seem then to be just nonsense…that’s what real friends are for!!

Learning from life needs preparation…we have to face life with no great expectations from the others but with high expectations from ourselves…and I guess we make it through…with time and patience and wisdom…and love!

Some things are still easier said then done though…

A shoulder to cry on...

This Tommy Page song was released almost twenty years ago...and i still remember it as if it was yesterday and i just love it...

i wanted to share it with you and want to dedicate it to someone special and very dear to me...who probably will never know this blog exists, but still...

here are the lyrics...and if you ever found out about this, i just want you to know that i'll always be there!!

Life is full of lots of up and downs,
And the distance feels further when you're headed for the ground,
And there is nothing more painful than to let you're feelings take
you down,
It's so hard to know the way you feel inside,
When there's many thoughts and feelings that you hide,
But you might feel better if you let me walk with you
by your side,

And when you need a shoulder to cry on,
When you need a friend to rely on,
When the whole world is gone,
You won't be alone, cause I'll be there,
I'll be your shoulder to cry on,
I'll be there,
I'll be a friend to rely on,
When the whole world is gone,
you won't be alone, cause I'll be there.

All of the times when everything is wrong
And you're feeling like
There's no use going on
You can't give it up
I hope you work it out and carry on
Side by side,
With you till the end
I'll always be the one to firmly hold your hand
no matter what is said or done
our love will always continue on

Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on
everyone needs a friend to rely on
When the whole world is gone
you won't be alone cause I'll be there
I'll be your shoulder to cry on
I'll be there
I'll be the one you rely on
when the whole world's gone
you won't be alone
cause I'll be there!

And when the whole world is gone
You'll always have my shoulder to cry on....

C'est comme ça que j'aime

J'en fait trop parfois, c'est bien connu...mais je suis comme ça, c'est moi!!
Je donne sans compter...j'aime sans rien attendre en retour...et toute la journée je n'ai cessé de fredonner cette chanson-ci que j'adore qui résume beaucoup ce que je suis...il s'agit de "Savoir Aimer" de Florent Pagny...je ne sais pas si je sais aimer mais c'est comme ça que j'aime...

Savoir aimer

Savoir sourire,
À une inconnue qui passe,
N'en garder aucune trace,
Sinon celle du plaisir
Savoir aimer
Sans rien attendre en retour,
Ni égard, ni grand amour,
Pas même l'espoir d'être aimé,
Mais savoir donner,
Donner sans reprendre,
Ne rien faire qu'apprendre
Apprendre à aimer,
Aimer sans attendre,
Aimer à tout prendre,
Apprendre à sourire,
Rien que pour le geste,
Sans vouloir le reste
Et apprendre à Vivre
Et s'en aller.
Savoir attendre,
Goûter à ce plein bonheur
Qu'on vous donne comme par erreur,
Tant on ne l'attendait plus.
Se voir y croire
pour tromper la peur du vide
Ancrée comme autant de rides
Qui ternissent les miroirs
Savoir souffrir
En silence, sans murmure,
Ni défense ni armure
Souffrir à vouloir mourir
Et se relever
Comme on renaît de ses cendres,
Avec tant d'amour à revendre
Qu'on tire un trait sur le passé.
Apprendre à rêver
À rêver pour deux,
Rien qu'en fermant les yeux,
Et savoir donner
Donner sans rature
Ni demi-mesure
Apprendre à rester.
Vouloir jusqu'au bout
Rester malgré tout,
Apprendre à aimer,
Et s'en aller,
Et s'en aller...

My first swim in the atlantic ocean

A week ago,
i went with some friends to a private beach in Dar Bouazza...half hour away from Casablanca...it was a terrific sunny day...perfect for a swim...

it was my first time in an Ocean, the Atlantic Ocean...hard to get into the water at first...but once in...you just enjoy the cold water on your body and it feels so good...and the thing is when you get out, you think you're gonna run towards your towel to feel warmer...but you just don't...because it's even warmer outside than inside the water...

Naturally, i prefer our Mediterranean sea...the water is clear...the sand more beautiful but the charm in being in such private beaches is that you can enjoy the sea, the sun and the music...it's like a night club in day light!! so you can also dance and have a lot of fun...

it's was a great day and i went back again the day after!!