You live....you learn...you wonder...

Each day we learn some new things in life...
we learn more about us...more about people around how...how we deal with things, how we face problems...how we cope with news relationships...how to handle the different ways of thinking of each one around us...and that's not an easy thing to do...

Each relationship is unique...and what's good about that is you always have to make some effort to get to know the other person...there's always some new things to discover...some secrets to reveal...some attitudes to understand...

Two people can be so different but get on so well together...the success of the relationship is the understanding of the differences...it's accepting that both people have different point of views over some subjects...the success is also and mostly due to honesty...

if the two persons are true to eachother, natural and complete...things can work out because we're all different and unique and if we really show who we are, you get to work the differences out and accept them and evolve together towards the future...

But the road to get there can be long...and it takes time for two persons to get to understand eachother...

Still i have a lot of wonders...
Why is it easier for two friends, boys, to take the decision to live together, then for a couple to take that decision…when is it the right time for a couple to move in the same place?

Another wonder…how to make a place for someone new in our lives when we already have life schedule that is full…between work and friends and sports and relaxation…how to make some room for that new person and make her not feel uncomfortable when she’s around…make her not feel like she comes after all the rest…how to judge what kind of things we tell her because it’s seems important and kind of things she doesn’t need to know?…how to make sure than the things we don’t tell her aren’t important to her…so that she feels as part of one’s life completely?

How to make distance relationships work? How often should one call? How to make the other feel we’re here and at the same time not make the other feel as if he couldn’t breathe anymore?

Too many questions and wonders…I learn everyday…human relationships…I sometimes feel like I have to explain myself so that my actions aren’t misinterpreted…you know, sometimes you want to do something right, something nice, a surprise…and then you get a reaction that’s is far for what you’ve expected…

How to bring up a subject that could be problematic or lead to an argue and not end up separated?

Do we always learn from the past? Do History repeat itself? I don’t think it does if we start the relationship and take it and face it in an intelligent way and our friends are always here to help us make the right decision and see things from another point of view…our fears seem then to be just nonsense…that’s what real friends are for!!

Learning from life needs preparation…we have to face life with no great expectations from the others but with high expectations from ourselves…and I guess we make it through…with time and patience and wisdom…and love!

Some things are still easier said then done though…